What am I Writing About

… Or, why Am I Here?
I guess at the moment I’m trying to find that out. I’m here because I’ve been inspired by the writings of some. I’m here because I’m horrified by some of what I read. I’m here to see if there’s anything I have to contribute to the vast Sargasso Sea of [...]

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Empowerment

I’ve been thinking/talking mostly in terms of sexual empowerment.
There are so many ways in which we can learn to dis-empower ourselves, without ever consciously being aware of it. And once we become aware of it, re-empowering ourselves can be theoretically simple, yet tough to do.
I’m thinking now of personal experiences with medical and dental personnele.
There [...]

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BDSM Victim (or not)

I stumbled onto this post, and I was blown away.
This question got me thinking:
So my question is, really: How can we stand up for ourselves as worthy people making a worthy and personal choice to do SM, D/s, B&D, whatever — while still honoring those abuse stories and the fear they speak to?
My answer: I [...]

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No matter how I try…

Apparently I’m destined to pick up topping techniques regardless of my inclinations.
I have, for a bottom, acquired an interesting set of skills. I’ve no CLUE how to run a scene, but I know how to do a number of things. Impact oriented, all of it
Until now…
I spent 10+ years learning elements of various [...]

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Dissociation

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Dissociation is a state of acute mental decompensation in which certain thoughts, emotions, sensations, and/or memories are compartmentalized because they are too overwhelming for the conscious mind to integrate. This subconscious strategy for managing powerful negative emotions is sometimes referred to as “splitting“, as these thoughts, emotions, sensations, and/or memories are [...]

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Semantics

I had a small disagreement with a friend the other night about terms. He said (and I am paraphrasing) that we were saying the same thing, that I was defining things too narrowly, and it was all semantics.
Well, yes.
And the term? Humiliation Play. As applied to me, specifically.
 Which brings me to the impetus for this [...]

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Hello World…

How many people bloggers know where that comes from, I wonder???
Personally, I found it very amusing when I realized that most blogging programs generate a ‘Hello World’ post to get you started. It’s not that it’s origins are particularly mysterious (they aren’t) however, bloggers as a group didn’t seem like those to be ‘in the [...]

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And we’re off

This is mostly a test page, just to see how things look.

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